Great blog from our associates Scottish Attachment in Action “I think one of the best ways to help children internalise the sensitivity and availability of an attachment figure is by showing that we keep them in mind. I like to explain it like this: I know that several hundred miles away there is a lady, in her eighties now, who probably every day wonders what I, her son, am up to. Most of the time, I don’t even consciously think about my mother thinking about me, I just know it. Occasionally, and probably more often when I am worried or stressed, I phone her just to make sure. Being kept in mind helps me have a certain amount of confidence as I go out into the world. When growing up, it allowed me to function more.” ... See MoreSee Less
What was your first response when you realised the seriousness of the current threat from Covid 19? Did you phone an elderly parent, wonder if you should keep your child home from school, or did you.....
Good Read “When it comes to returning to education settings, young children's needs are much different to those of older children and adults Young children rely on reading facial expressions and gestures, as well as on verbal communication, in order to understand and communicate with others. Protocols adopted within schools are likely to include staff members (and, in some cases, children) wearing protective masks and gloves, which may hinder children’s ability to read our facial expressions and may also be frightening and intimidating for young children.” ... See MoreSee Less
The “Still Face” comes to mind. “The ethos of any properly functioning national school is built on empathy, trust, familiarity and togetherness. A teacher at the top of the class dressed in a gown, visor and face mask will display none of these traits. A child being sprayed, scanned, checked and cordoned off for the day, two metres from everyone else, is so far removed from the ethos of primary education that it’s unrecognisable.” ... See MoreSee Less
Totally agree. For any kids with unresolved trauma histories (and these are not rare cases despite what society likes to think) this is a nightmare and will have wide ranging implications, it’s better than not returning to school at all but really school isn’t just about academic learning, especially for the more vulnerable kids who crave the secure relationships that some teachers have provided.
Indeed “As adults, we may say things casually to children because we want them to be safe. We may exaggerate, or we may make things seem more dangerous than they actually are. After all, we want children to take what we say seriously. However, we can also overemphasize something and cause fear in a child that they may carry with them for the rest of their lives.” ... See MoreSee Less
Interesting read “I suppose that’s why we flail around: We screen-kiss. We adopt dogs. We say “when this is over …” no matter how many times we’re disabused of the notion. An article about a woman embracing her great-grandchildren through a “hug time” contraption goes viral. Sales of teledildonics (smart vibrators) thrive. “Yesterday I held my right hand with my left,” Elisa Díaz Castelo, a poet in Mexico City, told me. “I was trying to remember what it’s like to be touched because I fear I might forget.” ... See MoreSee Less
Worth a listen ...Link to the VR APP in the info 🤗Tonight on Vitalize Radio
Friday 22nd May at 7pm, Gavin Andrew will be chatting with Dr Jenny Molloy.
After suffering from early trauma, Jenny Molloy spent a lot of her childhood in care. Life wasn’t easy but her foster carers taught her many things, but aerobics wasn’t one of them!
Dr Molloy now gives talks and is called on by government bodies to advise on the care and fostering of children. She has become an inspiration to many and I can see why.
Tune in to listen to her give an honest and upfront view of her life then and it’s impact.
Tune in to Vitalize Radio and listen at - onelink.to/4y8eg4 #torfaensonlycommunityradiostation #vitalizeRadio #Helpingbringthecommunitytogether #FosterCareFortnight #FosterCarer #JennyMolloy #inspirational #notallheroeswearcapes. Hackney Child ... See MoreSee Less
Good Article from Karen Young “Social isolation will be affecting all of us in different ways. In times of uncertainty and escalating anxiety, as the important adult in their lives you are the solution. It won’t always feel like it, but you are. Your incredible power lies in your ability to find enough calm within your own anxiety to be a strong, steady presence for your children. It doesn’t mean not feeling anxious and it doesn’t mean being a peddler of optimism or certainty. What it means is whatever you might be feeling, they can feel the strength of you through it all. Your relationship with them is built in the precious space between you and them. Whatever is happening out there, this is the space in the world you can control.” ... See MoreSee Less
Social isolation will be affecting all of us in different ways. In times of uncertainty and escalating anxiety, as the important adult in their lives you are the solution. It won’t always feel like ...