Interesting Article "Children are in crisis and it’s because — instead of orbiting around their parents and other responsible adults as they are meant to do — they are more and more orbiting around each other.
Being ‘cool’ matters more than anything else.
This is how Dr Gabor Maté and Dr Gordon Neufeld, authors of Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, diagnose the breakdown in the relationship between many parents and their children today.
For a child to be open to being parented by an adult — rather than taking his/her cue from an immature peer who can’t possibly guide them to maturity — they must be actively attached to the adult, wanting closeness and contact with that adult, say Maté, a physician who works with patients challenged by drug addiction and mental illness, and Neufeld, a psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting" ... See more

Our hands-off approach to childrearing means kids are increasingly being led by their peers. It’s crucial parents reclaim their central role, a leading physician tells Helen O’Callaghan.

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Short Read "One psychologist and researcher, Joel Paris, has said that the temperament of a child can predispose him or her to certain difficulties, but it’s a child’s experiences of loss, trauma, and neglect that can cause traits to become pathological. For example, most children with a shy temperament overcome shyness as they grow older, or learn how to manage it. However, if his or her family environment doesn’t provide the necessary support, the traits of introversion can be accentuated and develop into a pathological disorder.
Attachment problems are not the only cause of future personality problems in young people, but it’s one of the most significant causes." ... See more

An important number of studies link attachment in childhood to the development of personality disorders in adulthood, suggesting that insecure attachment is an important risk factor in psychopathol…

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Essential to support parenting to give babies the best start in life.
“Ways of being together are laid down in our minds and bodies the early weeks, months, and years of life. They become part of us; part of our DNA. Our earliest relationships sculpt our nervous system and the way our body responds to stress. The moment-to-moment mismatch and repair of early infancy is the material of which our self, with our own skin—our own border—is made. Survival of disruption, together with the joy of repair, creates trust, an essential ingredient of intimacy. We develop a confidence that when we feel bad, we won’t always feel bad. This early experience builds a foundation of hope.” ... See more

Research shows development of resilience begins with our earliest relationships.

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All children need this “Part of attachment parenting is the belief that every expression of emotion counts as an attempt to communicate – even tantrums. Rather than punishing children for their outbursts, attachment parents instead aim to understand what their child is trying to say to ‘build the foundation of trust and empathy’.
‘Babies cannot be expected to self-soothe, they need calm, loving, empathetic parents to help them learn to regulate their emotions,’ the site states. ‘Respond sensitively to a child who is hurting or expressing strong emotion, and share in their joy.” ... See more

Attachment parenting, based on attachment theory, has caught a lot of positive and negative attention. Check out our simple guide to decide on attachment parenting yourself

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Some great books and resources here “Emotions can be difficult. For adults, absolutely, but even more so for children. How are they supposed to express the hard ones like grief, anger, or sadness without the language to describe them? Creating a foundation of emotional intelligence has been a goal of mine since before my children were born. Unfortunately, children don’t come with instructions. Even more unfortunately, neither does parenting, not really—not when it comes to handling with our own emotional struggles and our children’s. Thankfully, there are some great works out there that make the murky waters of raising emotionally literate people a little more clear. Here are some of the best children’s books about emotions, for kids and parents alike.” ... See more

Twenty-three of the best children's books about emotions, for kids and parents alike. Find books for preschoolers to middle grade kids.

Recommended screen time for toddlers from the World Health Organisation.

Very interesting article. “In our society, no one teaches us what emotions are, let alone how to use them safely and skillfully. We learn how to avoid our emotions using a myriad of defenses such as addictions, over-working, over-eating, under-eating, isolating ourselves, ruminating, and many others.
Chronic reliance on avoidance eventually leads to a sense of being disconnected both from our authentic Self and others, which exacerbates suffering. The mind, to spare it from further pain, has the capacity to create a feeling that one is perpetually out of one’s body, or dissociating from reality or the present moment.” ... See more

A recent story, "Everywhere and Nowhere" in the New Yorker by Donald Antrim tells a harrowing and honest account of the author's life-long journey battling depression and suicidal thoughts. While many people believe that depression is a flaw in brain chemistry, Antrim's deeply personal story illumin...

Interesting information on this link. "Did you know that the brain of an infant contains essentially all the brain cells that they will ever need for learning throughout their lifespan? Add this to the knowledge that a newborn baby’s brain is about a third the size of an adult brain, but has all the mechanics it needs to develop speech, language, balance, coordination, executive functioning and sensory input. The growth and development of the brain and its functions are fascinating. When a baby is born, the arm and leg movements resemble more of a jellyfish motion than a mature human being. But the truth is, the brain develops at an astounding speed, especially because it’s needed for higher learning functions in school. The brain development during the first six months of life is focused on motor skills and sensory processing for improving our five senses (hearing, taste, sight, smell and touch). All of this work is setting up the brain for higher learning." ... See more

Brain Hierarchy: When Your Child’s Lower Brain Levels Are Weak, they Can’t Learn This article contains information regarding the brain hierarchy and how each part affects learning in the classroom. Affiliate links are included for your convenience. Integrated Learning Strategies (ILS) is a learn...

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Context needs to be understood here! "A recent study published in Journal of Child Development found that children raised in an environment where yelling is common are more likely to develop psychological issues and conditions such as anxiety, depression, stress and behavioral problems. Nobody wants that for their children so try to discipline in a calmer manner, your kids will thank you for it!"

How many of us were yelled at by our parents when we were younger? Is it something you've been guilty of doing with your own children? It's an easy trap to fal...

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Interesting Article “From the time they are very young, boys face pressures to look, talk, walk, play and act in acceptably masculine ways. Man-making is unforgiving, driving a boy to hide aspects of who he truly is.”

Listening to boys can help them learn who they are. And though it seems quite basic, it is not always easy.

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Very Interesting Research. "Neuroscientists at The University of Texas at Austin have discovered a group of cells in the brain that are responsible when a frightening memory re-emerges unexpectedly, like Michael Myers in every “Halloween” movie. The finding could lead to new recommendations about when and how often certain therapies are deployed for the treatment of anxiety, phobias and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
One of the surprises to Drew and his team was finding that brain cells that suppress fear memories hid in the hippocampus. Traditionally, scientists associate fear with another part of the brain, the amygdala. The hippocampus, responsible for many aspects of memory and spatial navigation, seems to play an important role in contextualizing fear, for example, by tying fearful memories to the place where they happened." ... See more

Newly identified 'extinction neurons' in the hippocampus suppress fearful memories when activated, and allow the memories to return when deactivated. The findings may provide new treatment avenues for PTSD, phobias, and anxiety.

Scary 'The world’s most popular online video game costs nothing to play, is available on seven different platforms, has more than 200 million registered players worldwide, and its CEO is now worth over $7 billion. Launched in the summer of 2017, Fortnite has blown away the competition to become the go-to video game for any serious or would-be gamer. Fortnite may also be responsible for a serious decline in your child’s health as evidence mounts about the effects on kids obsessed with playing.
While the World Health Organization (WHO) recognizes gaming disorder (compulsive and obsessive playing of video games) as a diagnosable condition, the American Psychiatric Association (APA) says there is currently insufficient evidence to support gaming disorder as a unique mental disorder, calling for further research.' ... See more

The world's most popular online video game costs nothing to play, is available on seven different platforms, has more than 200 million registered players worldwide, and its CEO is now worth over $7 billion. Launched in the summer of 2017, Fortnite has blown away the competition to become the go-to v...

Interesting Infographic. "The psychological effect of video games on the human brain, especially in children, is a very controversial topic as video game usage rates skyrocket in the 21st century.
Similar to the argument on whether or not TV is beneficial to development, some people claim that video games are detrimental to the development of the human brain, while others praise video games as helping to sharpen the human brain. Others say they can be addictive and would require video game addiction programs eventually.
The reason this topic is so hotly contested is because the real answer is a little bit of both. Video games can be both beneficial and detrimental to the human brain. Ansonalex.com" ... See more

Short Read Research. 'A new Canadian study of more than 2,400 families suggests that among preschoolers, spending two hours or more of screen time per day is linked to clinically significant behavioural problems.
Compared with children who had less than 30 minutes per day of screen time, children who were exposed to more than two hours of screen time per day were five times more likely to exhibit clinically significant “externalizing” behavioural problems such as inattention; and over seven times more likely to meet the criteria for attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.' ... See more

Two or more hours of screen time is associated with inattention problems in preschool-aged children.

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Irish Attachment in Action's National Conference, 'Why Attachment Mattters from Trauma to Hope.' This is going to be something special with Practice Leads from across Ireland delivering 6 workshops and 3 keynote presentations. across a range of issues as requested by members and followers of IAIA. (...

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Good blog from Psychology Today. "It’s been established for some time that consistently negative parenting behaviors lead to difficulty for children, both during childhood and later in life. It’s easy to assume that the opposite would be true of more positive parenting behaviors. But does the data bear that out? “We were trying to see if that experience of warmth, affection and love in a child’s life is really important or not,” VanderWeele explained. The study concludes that it is.
“We now have reasonably strong evidence that the experience of parental warmth in childhood, 40-50 years prior, really does shape various aspects of flourishing such as happiness, self-acceptance, social relationships and being more likely to contribute to the community,” he went on. “The effect of having loving, affectionate parents was stronger on these aspects than on a sense of purpose in life. But we see that parental warmth led to more happiness and social acceptance, as well as less depression, anxiety and drug use.” ... See more

New research links affectionate parents with a happy and flourishing adulthood.

Short read with a good Infographic "In societies the world over, teenagers are blamed for staying up late, then struggling to wake up in the morning. While it’s true that plenty of teenagers (like many adults) do have bad bedtime habits, researchers have long since proven that this global problem has a biological cause.
In 2004, researchers at the University of Munich proved that teenagers actually have a different sense of time. Their study showed that the 24-hour cycle which determines when you wake and sleep gets later during your teens, reaching its latest point by the age of 20." ... See more

Science shows that early starts can be bad for teenagers' health. Schools and universities would be better off starting at 10am.

Short Read "Sometimes the bedtime battle can make a mama feel like it would be easier to just let the kids fall asleep whenever they want, but there are huge benefits to a consistent bedtime routine, and one big drawback to letting kids head to bed whenever.
A study out of the UK looked at the bedtime habits of 10,000 kids when they were between 3 and 7 years old and found that kids with non-regular bedtimes had more behavioral difficulties than those with a predictable bedtime routine.
The study was published in 2013 in the journal Pediatrics, and found that about 20% of parents said their 3-year-old did not have a consistent bedtime. The researchers found that kids who did not have a set bedtime scored higher when it comes to things like unhappiness, being inconsiderate and fighting. Those scores came not only from parent reports, but also from teachers of school-age kids, who rated the behavior of kids without regular bedtimes as more problematic." ... See more

Not having a bedtime can basically give a kid jet lag without the travel.